“Mummy, I WANT an ice lolly,” my three-year old son shouts at me from the garden. I’m instantly triggered. My shoulders go up and I firmly reply: “No Alfie. You don’t ask like that.”
He does know how to ask with all the “magic” words, and he’s too young to understand why I find wanting something so negative. Instead his wants are purposeful for my healing. It’s a reminder of when I desperately wanted him, and why I try not to want for anything anymore.
Fertility doctors told me that I had just a five percent chance of conceiving, and egg donation would be my best chance to have a family. I was devastated and desperate to prove them wrong so for four years I screamed, whispered or sobbed the words: I WANT to be a Mum. I WANT to have a baby. I WANT to be like all my other friends. They can have children. Why can’t I? I was behaving exactly like my son.
But I was forgetting to think of my future baby as a human being. A being with feelings and emotions. He didn’t want to be wanted. He longed to be welcomed.
One day, I actively decided to swap the word “want” to “welcome”. I started to say: “I welcome you.” It became my new mantra and I instantly felt a change within my body and mind. For the first time, my heart felt open. Open to receive our baby in spiritual form. For years this space had been closed, but this welcoming message was bringing him closer.
Now as an Intuitive Fertility Coach, I tell all my mummies-to-be that conception starts in the heart. It’s our first womb. By opening your heart space, you can invite your spirit baby in and start connecting with her or him. Remember that your spirit baby can hear you and can feel your welcoming energy.
I feel incredibly grateful to be a mummy-to-two very welcomed and naturally conceived children. Like all children, they now act as my mirror, so my son’s wants remind me that when I find myself wanting things, like: new clothes, opportunities, money or even a holiday, I stop the wanting and start welcoming them to me. This helps me from desperately seeking answers and instead sends out an invitation for the new things, people or messages to come into my awareness when it is meant to. Go on, I welcome you all to experience the power of welcoming.
Joanne Sissons is a Certified Intuitive Fertility Coach. To learn more about Joanne or to book a private session with her, please click here.
Joanne is also the co-author of our International Best Selling Book: “Expect Miracles ~ 10 beautiful souls share stories of Hope, Inspiration & Transformation“.