The challenge is most people are afraid to make the wrong decision or they sit in confusion, going back and forth with doubt and worry. What if decision making could be a more simplified process? What if we could bypass the doubt and fear all together?
Ever since my son began preschool he didn’t really enjoy it. While aspects of it were fun especially in the younger grades, it was a struggle most mornings.
“Mom I hate school” was how we started most days. When I would explore with him what he hated about school and coach him on shifting his perspective it was met with great resistance. The one thing I learned about resistance is to roll with it, not fight against it. He is a strong willed, determined young man. Always has been, always will be. These are great traits to have and will serve him well in life. The challenge is he doesn’t like being told what to do and school is all about doing what you are told to do.
When I was at Sanoviv Medical Institute in Mexico back in 2011 I spoke to my son on the phone one night and asked him how his day went. He said “it was awful. I had the worst day at school.” When I asked more questions it was the same conversation. I suddenly got this insight to challenge him the next day to find 3 things he likes about school. I told him if he found at least 3 things I would give him $3.00. He agreed to try.
The next night I spoke to him and I asked “did you find at least 3 things you like about school?” He replied with great enthusiasm “I found twenty!” My first response was wow this is a breakthrough until I heard him say “Does that mean I get $20 dollars?” I laughed and he then proceeded to say “Mom I still hate school.” So it has been a challenging topic over the years. While he has grown to accept he has to go to school, he has struggled to make peace with it.
The start of this school year felt different. He had a new teacher who was more flexible and fun. When my son told me one morning “Mom I actually like school”, I almost fell of my chair. Unfortunately that didn’t last more than a few weeks. He also had some challenges with bullying this year so that made it even more difficult. I opened my mind by saying “there has to be another way and I am wide open to the guidance. Show me what I need to do.” I had surrendered it all over once again to the divine Spirit to lead me.
Suddenly the idea of world schooling crept into my awareness. When we are faced with decisions that we are resistant to, the guidance often comes in slowly as a seed planted in the mind. That is why following the whispers with deep curiousity is a powerful way to live. These seeds of awareness help unwind our minds from any thoughts and beliefs that may interfere with our willingness to listen and follow our guidance.
The idea of homeschooling had come in before over the last few years but I didn’t feel like I could do it. I had doubts about my own patience around teaching my son the required school curriculum. Half of it I didn’t feel was relevant and purposeful to prepare him for life anyway so I had my own judgments to face. The idea of world schooling and creating a curriculum that would prepare him for all of life felt expansive and exciting. I do that with my clients and members every day. A door opened in my mind.
I started to follow the signs and nudges from my heart. I made some phone calls, I researched some different options, I had purposeful conversations and suddenly I saw the truth “I can do this because the guidance is to home school my son”. So the short answer to “Why did I decide to home school my son?” is because I was guided to.
I don’t make decisions in my head, I let my heart take the lead. That is one of the 10 “Heart Led Living” principles in my book. It is something I practice in every moment but I wasn’t open to the guidance because I was afraid. The unwinding of the mind is essential and I had come full circle. All I need to do is follow the guidance moment to moment. You see there are no decisions to be made, there is only following the guidance.
Our hearts whisper directions to us in each and every moment. It leads us every step of the way. My heart led me to the distance learning school that will work with my son and I to develop his curriculum based on his interests, skills and input. I know this next year will be challenging but I also trust it will be deeply healing and profoundly purposeful. I am excited about teaching my son to trust his intuition and supporting him in creating his curriculum for life.
Our life is our classroom and it is designed to awaken our soul. When we allow our heart to take the lead and follow the guidance that comes from deep within, life’s decisions are made for us. We tap into the place of inner knowing. Our mind thinks it knows, but our heart knows it knows. It is no longer about what we should or shouldn’t do or what we think or don’t think, it is about what are we guided to do.
Sounds simple, but it is not always easy. I have been practicing the principles from my book for years and the more I practice and teach the easier it becomes. This will happen for you to. Next time you are faced with a decision, stop…take a deep breath…drop your awareness into your heart and ask…what would you have me do?…then trust and follow the guidance that comes.
If you need more support in learning to trust your intuition and make decisions from a deep place of knowing in your heart my book “Heart Led Living ~ When Hard Work Becomes Heart Work” provides the principles and tools to help you integrate this practice into your life.
Thank you for being open to explore heart led decisions…it will change your experience of life forever.