Join Sue Dumais in this week’s Expect Miracles radio show and learn how Radical Honesty saved her marriage and how it can transform all your relationships including your relationship with self. Sue shares her personal story as well as the steps to start using Radical Honesty as a daily practice in your own life.
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Sue has provided some notes from the radio episode:
R – revealing
A – acceptance
D – dissolve old patterns
I – ignite the flame
C – courage and commitment
A – appreciation
L – love
H – hold space for deep listening – no interrupting, no need to figure out a response, release the need to need to fix or solve, just listen with your heart and inner ear
O – be open to anything
N – no judgment ~ be willing to be wrong
E – express and expose everything into the light – let it all out. Nothing remains hidden
S – share openly and deeply including your hidden thoughts
T – tell the truth ~ the truth will set you free
Y – YES – be open to discover your YES in the relationship. We are always looking at the NO’s, what isn’t working, what’s should be or shouldn’t be.
1. create space or set up a radical honesty date – ideally practice daily. choose a sacred time to share, make a commitment, if there is nothing to express then be radically honest about how much you appreciate or love the other. Perhaps for something they did that day. If something happens in the moment ask if they are open you expressing some radical honesty. Be willing to wait if the timing is off. Both need to be willing and able to hold space for this sacred practice.
2. many couples will need support to begin this practice. Especially if there is a real disconnect, lack of communication and/or fighting and a build up of resentment and hurt. To have a compassionate guide, counselor and facilitator will set the practice up for success.